What You Can Do
Survive the crisis. Suicide is
forever. Feeling suicidal
is generally temporary or intermittent.
The first step is to delay acting on the
desire to harm yourself at the peak of your feelings
of despair. This is the time you
are most apt to harm yourself, but it is also the
time you are least able to make a fair minded decision.
If life has not been fair to you, you owe it to
yourself to be fair to yourself and wait until your
emotions subside so you can think more clearly.
Make a commitment to yourself: I will never
make a major life altering decision when I am at
an emotional extreme.
Make your environment safe. If
you possess substantial quantities of medication,
consult your doctor about maintaining the necessary
medications and their dosage, and discard the rest. If
you have alcohol or other psychoactive drugs lying
around the house, get rid of them. Suicide
is too easy with pills and alcohol is available.
Make use of the people around you. People
caught up in their pain feel an incredible sense
of aloneness. They believe that nobody understands
or cares. People who feel alone in this world
almost always overlook people who do care for them
and who would try and help if given the opportunity. Whither
it is a family member, next door neighbour who you
know or a worker at LifeLink.
The bottom line is that if you are on the verge
of suicide, you need to remember that there
is someone out there who wants to know and who will
be eager to help if you allow it.
Take time to care for yourself. When
you are feeling upset or depressed this is easier
said than done. But because you are available
to yourself at any time, you are potentially your
own most valuable resource. Do little things
like taking better care of yourself. Even if
that’s going to bed and getting up at reasonable
hours, having a shower and getting nicely dressed. These
little things can create a positive chain reaction
in your life.
This may not dramatically change your life but they
will break the vicious cycle of harmful self care
habits that can make you feel even worse. It
will set a new tone and help alleviate the distress
at least temporarily and help sustain you through
As hard as it may be to believe: you can
change how you feel. Let’s end with a simple but profound
principle: A thought is not a fact. As hopeless
as a situation appears, or as bad as you feel within
yourself there is support available and there are
people who are willing to help.
This is taken from "Choosing to Live" (1996), T. Ellis and C. Newman and you can purchase this book on Amazon.
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